Take it seriously
If someone tells you that your actions or comments are unwanted, offensive, harassing, or discriminatory, pay attention. Intent to discriminate or harass is not a requirement for a finding of harassment/discrimination. It is the impact or effect that is important.
Listen and keep calm
If someone approaches you about your behaviour, just remain calm and listen to them. It may be upsetting to be accused of harassment/discrimination, but anger will only complicate this situation. Listen to what the person accusing has to say about your behavior and remain serious. Remember it is not an easy conversation for either party. Let the individual speak their mind and consider what they are saying before you respond.
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Ask yourself: How is the other person feeling? What did I do that caused that feeling? Could I have done something differently?
Respond
If you believe the allegations against you could be true, you may wish to acknowledge and apologize for the behaviour whether the behaviour is intentional or not. 听
A thoughtful and genuine apology includes :
Part 1: Share how you feel
Be genuine and sincere in what you say. Elaborate on your remorse. 听
Part 2: Admit your mistake AND the negative impact it had
Be specific. Speak specifically about what you did that was wrong, why it was offensive and recognize the negative impact of such behaviour. 听
Part 3: Make things Right
Outline the steps you have taken / or will take to change behaviour. Ask if there is anything you can do to help repair the harm done to that individual specifically. Follow-through with steps stated. 听
A thoughtful and genuine apology does not include rationale for your behaviours.
Whether you believe the allegations to be true or not, you should state the behavior will not continue and take appropriate steps to ensure this. I.e., connect with the Employee Family Assistance Program or Human Rights & Equity Services for supports and coaching if needed.
Embrace change
Even if the harassment claims stem from a misunderstanding, chances are you'll need to adjust your behaviour and change your style of communication to avoid a similar situation in the future. Stay open to all the constructive feedback you receive and be prepared to change your behaviour at the workplace.
Do not confront the individual who made the complaint
If concerns are brought forward by a third party, never confront the individual who laid the complaint. Such behaviour is considered harassment under the personal harassment policy and can cause further harm to all parties involved. It may even strengthen allegations made against you. 听
Make sure to only discuss the case with appropriate supports (these can be outlined in consultation with a HRES advisor). Gossip between colleagues might even spur more allegations against you.