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For many people, Valentine鈥檚 Day can be an isolating time. The dominant Valentine鈥檚 Day narrative insists that to be in a romantic relationship is to be happy. And for many single people, the day can come with pressure to find a partner.
The sensationalization of romance on Valentine鈥檚 Day puts pressure on people. Singles wonder whether there is something 鈥渨rong鈥� with being single (or with them for being single). Couples wonder whether their relationship measures up to the ideal and if they find it doesn鈥檛.
Marriage has traditionally been touted as a goal to which everyone should strive, but that norm is changing. In past decades, the stigma caused by was a driving motive to 鈥渇ind love.鈥� But those have slowly decreased. It is to remain single or live in a common-law .
More than and the number of single-person households is increasing. In 2021, Canada had around just as many (29.3 per cent) as it did couple-only households (25.6 per cent) and family households (25.3 per cent).
Still, the expectation remains that people should be actively trying to find a partner. Valentine鈥檚 Day reinforces that. Rest assured, there is nothing wrong with remaining or becoming single 鈥� in fact, there can be benefits.
The is that singles are lonely, miserable, and unhealthy. That鈥檚 just not true. Single people tend to be more social, active and independent.
The rewards of being single
Being single increases connectedness: Single people are not necessarily isolated. In general, singles often have stronger social networks. Their networks tend to be more expansive, with singles more actively involved in their broader community. Moreover, not only do they have more connections, but single people are more likely to they have by reaching out and depending on connections.
Marriage can be more insular. When you have a partner, you are less likely to look outwards for support or rewarding social interactions because you already have a close relationship at home to depend on.
Being single increases physical fitness: Single people are more likely to take better care of their physical health. Singles spend than married people and consequently have, on average, a . Single people also report similar levels of overall , self-esteem and life satisfaction in comparison to couples.
Being single increases independence: Single people are usually more self-sufficient. They are more likely to experience than married people, likely because they have to be more autonomous.
The risks of being single
However, it鈥檚 not all roses. There are also some detriments associated with being single. In general, married people . There鈥檚 an ongoing debate about whether this means healthier people are more likely to get married (the marriage selection effect) or that marriage provides a protective environment (the ).
It鈥檚 likely that both contribute to the statistics. Research suggests that individuals with poor , and health are both less likely to marry and more likely to die at an earlier age.
Single people, while more physically active, have than married people. Married people also have built-in social and emotional support in each other, are less likely to participate in compared to single people.
However, it is important to note that not all romantic relationships are satisfying. If romantic relationships are loving and supportive, then there are physical and psychological benefits. But when marriages and long-term relationships dissolve, the physical, mental, emotional and economic stress can have significant negative effects on health.
Similarly, if romantic relationships are of , the corresponding stress can affect a person鈥檚 well-being. And there鈥檚 no evidence to suggest that staying in a poor relationship is beneficial.
Altogether, research supports a single message: social connection is important. The number and quality of our affect our mental and physical health, behaviour and mortality risk. Relationships, whether romantic, familial, friendships or otherwise, keep you healthy. Love should be celebrated.
Let鈥檚 refocus Valentine鈥檚 Day less on romance and more on cultivating and celebrating having happy lives full of loving relationships in whatever form they take.
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